The Anatomy of Happiness

"Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm, and harmony."

~Thomas Merton

There was an exhibit at The Science Museum this summer entitled The Anatomy of Happiness. Not only was it a fascinating display of real muscles and veins and organs, but it showed the direct connections between our bodies and our sense of happiness. Normally, I’m an art museum kind of person, not a science museum type. And usually I’m a little put off by the word “happiness.” It feels too lightweight; too fleeting. I’ve become biased against the word by our culture’s “got mine” way of prioritizing wants and needs in order to chase it.

But Thomas Merton defined happiness in terms we use for music: balance, order, rhythm, harmony. The same elements that compose a beautiful piece of music are what can create our contentment. We are all born with the potential for happiness, and according to this exhibit’s research, only 10% of that ability is determined by our circumstances. Genetics play a role, for sure, but so do our thoughts and our behaviors.

Instead of thinking about how to be happier, I’m now more inclined to think about how I can create balance and harmony in my days. In this month of September, which functions as the new year for many of us, with busier schedules and increased demands on our time, I’m trying to establish a rhythm that is more measured and less frenetic. It is a hard practice for me to not do everything that I think is expected of me, and I'm afraid it shows, and not in the best light. Maybe that's why a dear friend gave me a “to do list” pad that only has room for four tasks. It’s a visual reminder to lessen the intensity and compulsion of getting stuff done. It’s a little tool for a big behavior change.

Maybe it’s not necessary to put everything on the “to do” list. Maybe it’s okay to say “no.” Maybe balance can mean rest. On the days that I think that way, I write better and I feel better. Try it.

In these busy days of early fall, I wish for you the happiness born of balance, order, rhythm, and harmony. ~J